What I Expected Her to Just GET OVER (I Was SO WRONG) –

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When addicts first get caught, most expect their partner to just move on: “I’m sorry! I quit! let’s never talk about this again!” But here’s the brutal truth: that mindset destroys any chance of real healing.

In this raw conversation, Jay reveals what he expected Lori to just get over shortly after D-Day, and why that expectation was completely backwards. We break down:
• WHY ADDICTS RESIST talking about it
• The SILENT TACTICS keep partners trapped
• What “PROACTIVITY” actually means in recovery
• Why betrayal trauma is like still being IN COMBAT
• ONE THING that would have SPED UP our healing (both partners need to hear this)
• Why this is NOT BIBLICAL or healthy

For addicts: If you’re frustrated, she’s not “over it yet,” this will show you what you’re actually asking her to carry. (Hint: Trust isn’t something you automatically deserve.)

For partners: If anyone has told you to just forgive and move on, this validates why that advice is toxic. You’re not being stubborn. You’re in trauma. And he needs to understand what that really means.

This is about what real repair looks like versus just getting back to ‘status quo.’ Because maintaining peace through silence isn’t peace at all.

Timestamps
00:00 Hook
00:39 Intro
01:42 How quickly did that mindset kick in for you?
04:00 Why does she keep talking about it?
06:52 Did you pressure me even silently to move on faster (or maybe not so silently)?
09:55 I didn’t want to work hard.
10:45 What surprised you most about how long healing really takes?
11:35 What is the “lived out” definition of what you need?
13:58 How did learning about betrayal trauma change your expectation?
15:50 What did you need to unlearn about healing timelines to really show up for me?
18:01 What advice would you give to men who are frustrated that their wives aren’t “over it” yet?
19:23 For our listeners: Did anyone tell you to “Just get over it?”
20:17 If you could go back to the beginning, what’s one thing you would tell me about the pace of healing?
21:52 What Lori wished had happened.
23:36 Your silence may be costing you your peace.
24:58 Behind the Scenes
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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

HOW I HID My Porn Use while “In Recovery” (every LYING TACTIC) – 6.09S

Jay explains many deception tactics he used to hide his addiction. From robotic denials to fake confusion, playing dumb to calculated outbursts, this video exposes the manipulation patterns that betrayed partners recognize but often can’t prove. It also covers:

-Specific moments Lori caught him using these tactics
-Addicts’ delusions and brain fog
-Calculated timing of confessions
-Partial truths

If you’re a betrayed partner questioning your sanity or an addict wondering how long your tactics will work, this conversation will open your eyes. The lies addicts think are CLEVER are actually TRANSPARENT—and prolonging deception only makes healing harder for everyone.

Timestamps
00:00 Intro
02:10 What tactics did you use to lie and cover up your porn use?
03:07 Minimizing is lying
04:27 Becoming re-sensitized
06:14 Ever play dumb or fake confusion to avoid getting caught?
07:05 USED THE TRUTH to make your lies more believable?
08:33 Addicts test the waters by dripping the information out
10:41 Ever knowingly PLAYED UPON MY SYMPATHIES?
12:46 Phrases or emotion did you fake to throw me off?
13:51 Robotic lines
14:32 Using anger to hide
15:53 Ever not think too hard?
17:01 The DELUSIONAL Brain Fog*
17:57 Ever used my trauma fog or MY KINDNESS against me?
18:33 Waited me out, hoping I would forget?
20:40 What tactics did we forget? Let us know in the comments.

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice
#betrayedwife

The Emotions I Refused to Face (addicts run from these things) – 6.08S

In this compelling episode, we tackle the challenging subject of emotional
avoidance and addiction recovery. Jay opens up about his struggles with
feelings of abandonment, insecurity, and boredom, which led him to turn to
porn. We discuss the importance of facing these emotions head-on, rather
than fleeing from them, as well as HEALTHIER coping mechanisms and the
significance of accepting, rather than resisting, life’s emotional
challenges. We start with testimonials from listeners that underscore the
impact of Jay’s vulnerability and transparency in helping betrayed spouses
on their recovery journeys.

Highlights of this episode:
– The shocking fear a 6’0″ ex-military man couldn’t face (this will surprise you)
– Why boredom is actually dangerous and how it triggers relapse cycles
– The difference between wanting to numb emotions vs. learning to feel them (game-changer)
– How to tell if you’re using ‘recovery’ to avoid real healing (most people miss this)
– The #1 sign you might be addicted (hint: it’s about 5-second interactions)
– Practical coping techniques that actually work long-term (not just band-aids)

When I Chose Porn Over God (and What Happened Next) – 6.07S

Jay opens up about the internal voice telling him to confess his porn addiction – and why he actively chose to ignore it for years. We explore:
• The pattern of CALCULATED DELAY
• What that “voice of truth” actually sounds like
• The PERSONAL COSTS of ignoring God’s promptings
• The split-second decision between truth and silence
• How SILENCE IS NEVER NEUTRAL
• When lying feels holy
If you’re struggling with porn addiction, betrayal trauma, or wondering whether to come clean about your secrets, this conversation offers hope and practical insight into this crucial part of the recovery process.

Timestamps
00:00 Intro
00:28 Did you ever feel like you should tell the truth?
01:39 Jay describes the VOICE OF TRUTH (hearing God)
04:36 Earlier opportunities to avoid D-Day
06:29 What did you do when the voice showed up?
08:06 On feeling unlovable
10:05 When the wife ACCEPTS THE ADDICTION
12:55 Misunderstanding about ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
15:44 HOW GOD SEES US (3 ways)
18:35 Did you think silence would keep you lovable?
21:50 Personal COSTS of ignored nudges
24:31 Silence is never neutral
28:16 Was there a question I SHOULD HAVE ASKED to make you confess?
30:28 Was there any part of this that felt holy or virtuous? (spiritual costs)

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To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

How I JUSTIFIED EVERY LIE I Told (Addicts’ Thinking EXPOSED) – 6.06S

In this raw conversation, we expose why the lies addicts tell and the beliefs they hide behind increase betrayal trauma. Jay opens up about the shocking justifications for his deceit and the internal struggles he faced while battling addiction. We cover two ways to COMBAT THE DELUSION of ‘protecting’ a partner from the truth. Lori asks about the deep-seated beliefs that shaped his actions, and stay until the end in for an eye-opening conversation on spiritual values, as well as a behind the scenes (kind of funny) moment.

Timestamps
00:00 Intro and Question
02:01 I don’t want to get better
04:42 It became acceptable
05:17 “The beliefs that justified my lies”
09:02 Beliefs about LIFE/RELATIONSHIPS that helped him justify lying*
13:41 One more belief from his past
14:42 Solution: What is the history of the addict in your life?
16:55 “Maybe I SHOULD QUIT the thing I’m lying about?”*
18:35 Delusion and Pollyanna
20:36 Did Jay ever think the lying would cause more damage than porn.
23:58 What was the most shocking lie Jay justified?
24:53 Did SPIRITUAL/MORAL VALUES ever compete with his justifications?*
26:37 Jay’s thinking now?
27:41 The PROBLEM WITH CONFESSING all at once*
28:55 WORSE than porn
31:21 Feedback
32:06 BTS Moment involving a Bow and Arrow

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

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#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice
#rockbottom
#truth
#healing
#soberlife
#addiction
#marriagehelp
#liedtoher
#pornrecovery
#breakthestigma
#mentalhealthmatters

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The Day I Hit ROCK BOTTOM (this CHANGES EVERYTHING for Addicts)

After 15 years of addiction, lies, and hiding, Jay finally found BROKENNESS. Not in a loud, dramatic crash, but in a quiet, rock-bottom moment where he just couldn’t keep lying about it… not to his wife, and not to himself.

In this video, we unpack THE MOMENT everything shifted, the darkest time in our marriage. We also cover the exact truths that went through Jay’s mind at that moment, what finally broke the cycle, and what actions keep him sober to this day.

If you’re stuck in addiction or trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation gets real. We name what actually changes things—not just for addicts, but for the wives of men who are ready to get serious.

This was the moment that made truth livable.

This was the day everything began to change.

He Stopped PERFORMING—& Discovered Real INTIMACY (Sobriety)—6.04S

What does real intimacy feel like after betrayal, addiction, and years of rebuilding trust? In this episode, we open up about how Jay’s ability to connect has changed over time — from fake vulnerability and performance to HONEST EMOTIONS and simple, humble presence.
Jay shares how he used to seek physical intimacy to avoid emotions, and how healing has redefined what closeness feels like. We talk about the risks of being emotionally naked, the power of GIVING SACRIFICIALLY, and how intimacy now lives in the small moments we missed before.

Topics we explore in this episode:
– The quickest path to intimacy (hint: it’s not sex)
– What vulnerability really means
– Giving to give vs. giving to get
– Why 50/50 doesn’t fully heal relationships
– Untangling emotional from physical intimacy
– Presence: the real secret to connection
If you’ve ever wondered what intimacy can look like after real healing — not just surviving but connecting deeply — this one is for you.
 
00:00 Intro and question
00:44 How Jay saw intimacy THEN vs NOW
03:38 But it’s not this…
04:06 What intimacy looks like after healing the relationship
05:35 The QUICKEST way to intimacy
07:49 Giving to give vs. GIVING TO GET
09:02 Should it be 50/50?
09:55 Did Jay ‘fake it’ at church?
13:08 Qualities of vulnerability
14:53 Now intimacy ‘is just there’
17:50 The main thing: Presence

Leave a comment and let us know what touched you most.
Subscribe for more episodes on healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma.

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To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

#intimacyafterbetrayal
#emotionalintimacy
#rebuildingtrust
#vulnerabilityheals
#relationshiphealing

THIS TOOL Rewired My Brain for REAL INTIMACY (After Porn) – 6.03S

‘I thought intimacy was just sex—until I started recovering from porn addiction.’ In this video, Jay shares how ONE POWERFUL TOOL helped him heal our relationship, create real intimacy, and start feeling connected in a way he ‘didn’t think was possible’ when healing from his porn addiction. We also bring up a caution or two, providing guidance on how to implement this tool depending on where you are in your own healing journey.
Whether you’re early in your journey or years into recovery, this tool might help you bridge the distance, reconnect with your spouse, and build a deeper relationship.
What we’ll cover:
• How porn addiction can affect intimacy
• How real intimacy is built during relationship healing
• THE TOOL that helped us shift everything

➤ Subscribe for more honest conversations around addiction, recovery, and emotional healing.
➤ Leave a comment: What has intimacy looked like for you in recovery?

00:00 Intro and Question
00:19 Jay’s Answer
00:30 Introducing the tool
04:21 F: Feeling
04:38 A: Acknowledge
04:58 N: Need
05:48 O: Ownership
06:29 S: Sober
06:56 Hook
07:53 Hint for addicts trying to rebuilt trust
08:40 Hook
09:25 IMPORTANT: If it’s early in the process of rebuilting trust
11:41 A Warning
13:03 A way to date early on (before Phase 3)

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice
#PornAddictionRecovery
#IntimacyAfterPorn
#RewiringTheBrain
#MenAndIntimacy
#SobrietyJourney

How ADDICTION WARPS INTIMACY (her affirmations MEANT NOTHING) – 6.02S

In this episode of the Couple Cure Podcast, we dive into the complexities of intimacy (OUTSIDE the bedroom) when Jay was in active addiction, the challenges of seeking validation, and the impact of hidden lives on self-worth. Through personal stories, we discuss the hardships faced due to perceived inadequacies, and how addiction can distort the perception of love and intimacy. We also set the stage for further exploration of what true intimacy means as they heal together in future episodes.

00:00 Intro and Question
01:24 For Jay intimacy looked like (The Problem)
02:15 What Jay was seeking
02:50 How Lori was already giving it
05:01 The REAL reason “Lori didn’t affirm me!”
06:09 Why Jay could not believe Lori’s words
10:55 Some MESSED UP THINKING
17:19 Another “Intimacy” Jay was addicted to

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

Would’ve Passed a Lie Detector Test? (one way he lied) – 6.01S

Jay confesses something he’s never told anyone before: One way he lied to keep his addiction hidden. (Hint: it’s one thing some addicts do to keep their secrets.) He’s also asked if he thinks that tactic would have passed a polygraph. We also share a few techniques that might help in this situation. And stay until the end to see us in a real-life moment.

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:31 What is one lying technique Jay used that he’s never told anyone about?
2:15 Would he have passed a lie detector test?
2:50 Some other addicts do this too (the difference between openness and honesty)
4:48 Solution: A way to (possibly) know if he’s lying this way*
5:39 Solution: One way to get to the truth*
7:13 Solution for addicts: A way to rebuild trust (BUT…)
10:40 When Jay would use this lying technique
13.34 Business trips used to scare Lori, and two things that changed that sinking feeling
14:50 The lighter side of us (BTS)

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

Exposing Liars’ Tactics: Questions That Need Asking – 6.00S

In this episode, I ask Jay if he will answer some difficult question this season—questions like:
–What are some tactics he used to get away with lying for so long?
–How did he pretend to change–without really changing?
–Was there a time he almost told the truth, but continued lying instead?
–What emotions was he avoiding?
–How did he feel when his accountability partners let him off the hook?
–What is one thing he wants betrayed women to know?
–Could he tell his heart was hardening?

But the big question is: Will he reveal his secrets? (You can even leave your own questions in the comments if you’d like.)

Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
01:24 Some hard questions for Jay
04:40 Will Jay share his secrets this season?
05:43 Your comments / questions
06:51 This season may be different (behind the scenes)
07:24 A request & recent happenings

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice
#tellingthetruth

Why You Can Trust Us to Help You Heal (Even Therapists Come to Us) – 1.11

*TW Below
You’ve seen how we met, how God led us, and how we survived the darkest years of our marriage. In this final part of our story, we share why people — including pastors, doctors and counselors — trust us to walk with them through recovery, healing, and rebuilding intimacy. Our training, our personal research, and years of real-life experience come together to offer you hope that change is possible. We hope you enjoy this final video in this special series.

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
1:22 Wedding pictures from 24 years ago (& our research)
1:58 Over 20years of finding what works and what doesn’t (our tools)
2:36 Successful with clients (a study on the success rates of other programs)
4:22 Because we’ve been there… and we do things differently
6:42 If doctors, lawyers, pastors, therapists trust our program…
7:54 Translating the wife’s pain to husband (our training)
8:54 What our earliest goal was (see episode 1.0)
9:55 Resources that can help
10:56 Final words

*TRIGGER WARNING: While we don’t say anything that would trigger most people in this episode, if images of two people in love (or fighting) could feel hurtful, please consider listening without watching the video.

Music by: Prem_Adhikary

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

Porn vs God (our darkest years) – 1.10S

*TW Below*
Here is a longer version on our darkest times, as well as how we turned it around. While it’s a hard story to hear at times, we hope this gives you some encouragement.

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
1:03 Jay’s hidden life
7:14 The impact it had on Lori… and what she did
12:45 How this recording affected Lori
13:15 He hasn’t had an affair, but…
13:51 Whether prostitutes or “just” porn… and even bigger issues

*TRIGGER WARNING: While we don’t say anything that would trigger most people in this episode, if images of two people in love (or fighting) could feel hurtful, please consider listening without watching the video.

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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MUSIC CREDITS:
“Almost in F” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

FOUR SIGNS from God Led to a Wedding… and Mentoring – 1.07S

There were four critical moments where God showed up in very surprising and very clear ways… and we needed those signs from God to get us through all the hard times we’d encounter later. We hope you enjoy listening to the spiritual side of our journey. At the end, we even give you something you can do in your own life.

Timestamps:
00:00 Intro and background information
01:03 I met Jay after an intense season with God
01:42 The first sign: Adoption
02:30 The second sign: Found our names in the Bible
05:59 Other signs: Help marriages (the confirmations were critical)
07:15 The one moment that caused all of this
08:19 The third sign: I lost the engagement ring
10:50 The forth sign: He got fired the next day
13:50 Why this video (a hint for your marriage)

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To Rebuild Trust – https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Betrayal Trauma – https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/
To Recover from Addiction – https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/
To Say Thanks (“Tip Jar”) – https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww

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Who is This Channel For?

If porn addiction has you stuck–whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship–this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

“SHE’S NOT MY TYPE” …then they started dating (Special: How We Met) – 1.03S

*TW Below* Join us as we share the amusing story of how we first met. From slightly offensive office interactions to “you have five cats?!” discover how Jay, a tech-savvy, socially awkward guy and Lori, a determined lady, didn’t like each other at first, but eventually tied the knot. Tune in for relatable laughs and insights into our path to love.

Side Note: Please excuse the differences between this and our usual videos. This was recorded when we were first starting out {and hadn’t even settled the a name yet,} and is being released as a special series so you can get to know us better.
*TRIGGER WARNING: While we don’t say anything that would trigger most people in this episode, if images of two people in love could feel hurtful, please consider listening without watching the video.*