In my research over the years I’ve heard all kinds of stories–of course some have been more surprising than others. Because of this I always tell clients they’re in a safe place and it’s difficult to shock me. On February 1, 2017, I was interviewed by Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation. In that interview he told me something that made me recoil in horror (see Part 2 at 14.28). I don’t think I’ll ever forget what he said.
The video is linked to YouTube. Just click the links “Part 1,” “Part 2” and “Part 3.”
Click to watch Part 1:
0.00 Introduction / Prayer / Logistics
5:09 Lori’s Story (when she found her purpose in life, but first…)
7.08 When she learned about Jay’s Porn problem (why she married anyway)
8.44 The lies started before we were married
10.23 His confessions, and what she did to help
12.54 How she became his accountability partner
13.56 Then the lies started
14.55 How she got him to confess
16.01 Little details and lie detector tests
17.33 The tools she used to confront him
18.36 What she wished she’d known (a caution for partners)
20.15 Needing to know vs. obsessing
20.50 Staggered disclosure kills her
21.25 “Do I stay?” (What changed her mind)
22.43 “It’s no-joke traumatizing”
23.07 When to move on…
Click to watch Part 2:
0.0 How this time was different
1.18 How her relationship with God was tested
3.50 Hell and heaven at the same time
4.43 “We did it all backwards” (His sobriety)
8.37 The hardest thing all this leads to is…
9.54 What really pisses her off (“Co-Dependency” and what it really is)
11.54 Dependency can be good
14.28 How Michael’s wife was impacted (Lori was horrified)
16.17 Women who are fighters
20.28 A big breakthrough for the host
23.05 You have a right to a good life too
26.04 “Who do I want to become?” (The anger that helps)
Click to watch Part 3:
0.0 Michaels promise and Lori’s handout
1.18 Words of hope for you
5.02 What if he doesn’t want to quit porn… is there hope?
7.00 At the very least (what will change?)
7.33 What she’d do differently (All the tools are out there, but…)
9.06 Michael’s confidence in Lori and Jay
11.22 Lori’s final message to wives / closing prayer
15.19 Right NOW (Their bad week)